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what we learned from the bachelor.


Recently in this small nation of New Zealand, we saw the end of the second season of The Batchelor. This blog post isn't about reality tv shows in general and how guilty one should be for actually watching them - that might be a different post for later. We'll see as I get through watching the follow-up episode; women tell all, the secrets and the scandal from behind the scenes. Though this whole journey and situation is entirely ridiculous and it's not what happens in real life there may still be some lessons we can take from it.

HOW TO GET NOTICED
I do believe in finding someone you could be with for your whole life in such a short time as a few weeks, but to have other people involved getting in the way is really heartbreaking. I defiantly wouldn't want that to be the case. But what we can learn is even when you are in the middle of a reality TV show you still have to continue to put yourself out there.
    Being shy is not how you get noticed. Guy's like a girl who is straight forward. Guys notice a girl who is in his face and if you want him to notice you then be there and be noticeable.

THE VALUE OF YOUR SUPPORT SYSTEM
In The Bachelor the support network you have when you want advice about what to wear for a date or how much to really put heart into the relationship, is the other girls dating the guy which is weird. It's not your family and friends. But I think if you put yourself into a pair of heels of the girls in the bachelor mansion you can appreciate how much you like taking your time to get your heart broken, and having your support people to love you and tell you if the guy is really worth it or if they think he's a slob.
       Going into the show there seems to be no need for that support because he's already been deemed as a good guy. Would you rather have a guy chosen for you or have your support system you have from your friends and family who really know you?

THE VALUE OF FREEDOM
"Be prepared for captivity" on of the girls said for future applicants of a show like this. There's no getting out of the house without being on a date. You don't get to call your friends for support or to reminisce about your experience or to see how they are doing out in the real world. It is very glamorous and of course, you are on a tv show being tried to the whole country but that means you can't hide either. It's twisted. Just be happy you aren't stuck in a situation you can't control because of a contract.

WE ARE NOT IN PRIMARY SCHOOL
I'm talking about The Hit List that dear Naz made up, and it got a lot of attention from the show. Apparently everyone has a hit list. Do you agree with this? Cause I don't. In the real world we have to deal with people we don't like, like co-workers and trolls, but you are in total control of your own actions and why you say. Appreciate those lessons you learned on the playground.

NEVER APOLOGISE FOR BEING YOURSELF
That's just something that Naz said, and I agree with it. You have to do what to can to look after yourself and protect your heart from the world. You can do what you want, when it comes to being happy.

POLYAMORY IS HARD
We all understood that cereal dating wasn't allowed once we went back into the real world.
The way that you love is up to you, but thank your stars you have a choice about it.

IF YOU LET IT, YOU HEART CAN LOVE MANY PEOPLE
What you learn from watching the show is that the human heart is actually capable of having feelings for a lot of different people. I agree with this and if I was in a situation like that where I would allow myself to freely let my heart do whatever it wants, I too would find myself a bit confused. I thank my stars that at this stage and maturity of my life, I don't have to deal with that.

And of course, I have to mention the news that came after the show was finished...

SECRET RELATIONSHIPS CANNOT GROW
"Here they are the happy couple," they said. There is only one couple that comes out of the whole journey. And that isn't even for the benefit of those people finding love. The potential final relationship that comes out of the show is all to grow the tension we feel when we watch the show. If they were allowed to be happy together afterwards then there would be more chance of that relationship working. "We want to just get to know each other" but it has to stay secret, and so what has happen is the final Happy Couple, Jordan and Fleur didn't actually happen at all. He chose her, technically proposed to her, and then they couldn't see each other for a month or so. That's how a relationship dies. They didn't even get to enjoy it together while it was a secret. Jordan has now broken up with Fleur because he didn't have any feelings for her when he saw her again after that big wait and separation. Sad but some people just really can't do long distance, with no communication.



What do you think you can learn from a ridiculous reality tv show like The Bachelor? Do you agree with these points? Tell me in the comments. 
Also please don't forget to follow me, I'm Beka Ellen and I love you for reading. Until next time...

xxoBeka




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